You’d thought you’ve got enough

food already so that you won’t have to plow through your food budget. Does he have blow money of his own? You may need to factor that in. I’m just throwing thoughts out there. I know how tough and emotional this is. Once when my husband and I were battling it out, I told him I thought we should strip and talk about this naked (I once heard Dave Ramsey say someone had told him this is how this particular couple did their budget meetings simply because it’s silly). My husband cracked up, and we worked things out (and I didn’t have to get naked! lol). Bottom line, let him look at the numbers, let him work on it himself (at least he’s paying attention, right?), and then come back and recrunch the numbers tomorrow. It’s hard. I will say, the blessing to all this is that it’s caused me to live on cash rather than a debit card, and it’s also restrained my spending more than I would have thought since my husband picks up these budget sheets each week and goes through them line by line. I always have our bank statements for the week attached to the past week’s statements, as well as savings and investments printed out, so he can see what we’re achieving. So far, we’ve avoided any blow ups or disagreements, and that’s huge. Again, if what your doing isn’t working, you might need to find another tact to get him on board.

I’ve been where you are

My husband would go over and over the numbers, get out a pen and paper and pour over the numbers some more and would then say nothing to me, but absolutely nothing would change except my getting angry. Things changed once I finally broke down the numbers on a budget sheet I have (I do an old fashioned written budget I have from Tsh Oxenreider’s, The Simple Mom’s book, Organized Simplicity, that I write out each Friday morning for the upcoming week showing income, expenses and any funds I carry over from the previous week). It’s very black and white, and my husband now gets it. These weekly meetings are no longer emotional (thank goodness). It really never worked well until I showed him these budget sheets. I have one for his business and one for our personal accounts. I would suggest if what you’re doing isn’t working, do something else. That’s what I had to do. Also, let him know that your meeting is a wonderful idea (yeah, I know, I think “blech” but don’t turn it into a negative, that doesn’t work anyway), and you’d really like to go over the numbers with him and get his input, and then both work on it separately (yeah, I know, you’ve already done the work, but let him crunch the numbers too), and then tell him you should then come back and make a final decision on things after you both sleep on things. Might I suggest that maybe you offer him 20 bucks or so (in cash) from your food budget and give that to him for his juicing for the next two weeks?